In this post I will answer a question: Why some people fail to stop drinking for good? Why even after medical treatment, rehab, or psychotherapy, they keep drinking as usual.
Here is the truth: If you enjoy drinking, and alcohol makes you feel good, it would be almost impossible for you to become a sober person.
In contrary, if you physically feel bad during and after drinking, then you can stop drinking easily, if you really want to become a person who enjoys being sober.
When someone including your spouse, friend, a rehab agent, your doctor, or your boss, wants you to get sober, you will naturally resist any help or treatment designed to help you stop drinking. Even if you don’t enjoy alcohol anymore.
But when you, YOURSELF, are trying to get sober, then your success is very possible. Actually, it depends on your FEAR of losing your life from overdose. If you are not afraid to die from alcohol overdose, then you can’t stop drinking with any help.
Are you an alcoholic or a person who drinks too much?
Almost every AA member’s mind is programmed to be an alcoholic forever. Every physician is sure that an alcoholic will experience horrible and dangerous withdrawal if he or she will try to get sober without medical help. But this is only suggestion that can be wrong!
According to a study published by CDC in 2014 90% of people who drink too much are not alcoholics. They are not dependent from beer, wine, vodka, whiskey, cognac, Jean, any kind of alcohol.
People who are not alcoholics can stop drinking with some help or without any help. Do you belong to this group of people?
So, it is not some therapist’s fault, if you didn’t get sober after many weeks of treatment. You were not interested in the first place! You didn’t want to stop drinking but agreed to try to get sober because someone made you try. Right?
Your success depends on your own decision to stop drinking for good!
As you may notice now, your own WILLINGNESS to become a sober person is very important.
Also, you have to be motivated to stop drinking as soon as possible because of your health concern.
FEAR is a great motivator. If you have it, you can stop drinking for good, of course, if you really want to.
Here is another truth: Your success is not possible, if you don’t have a DESIRE to achieve it. You may ask me now: What to do? Well, you can begin moving forward toward your goal right now. Repeat loudly after me:
I can and I will become a person who enjoys being sober!
Keep repeating it as many times a day, every day, every week, as you can, until your mind become programmed for your success.
You have your brain, use it to stop drinking for good!
Let me share a fact with you: You control your mind, or it controls you! It means, if you accept yourself as a hopeless victim of alcohol, then you are not responsible for your drinking problem.
In this case you blame your spouse, your life, your parents, economy, but not yourself. Of course, nothing and nobody can help you stop drinking!
Take responsibility for your action and behavior and begin to look for a solution to your drinking problem.
Make your mind focused on one simple idea: You can and will become a person who enjoys being sober. Feel as if you are becoming that person already.
Not every wife supports her husband when he decided to stop drinking because he lost her trust. Is it familiar to you? Well, remember, you control your mind, you made a decision to get sober, you are becoming a sober person.
If you really love your wife and your kids, then forgive them and keep moving forward toward your sober goal.
Program your mind for your sober success!
Do you believe in your success? If not yet, keep saying to yourself that you can and will stop drinking for good.
Of course, it is not easy because your negative emotions can affect your mind making you feel miserable. Don’t pay attention to how you feel. You are going to win!
If you fail, get on your feet and keep programming your mind again and again until you FEEL that you can and will become a person who enjoys being sober. You don’t need any help here because you are the owner of your brain.
Can you honestly ask yourself now what can happen to you, if you will keep drinking for another year or two? What is your answer? Do you like your answer?
If you are afraid of your answer, then focus on it right now. See it in your mind. How do you feel about it? What are going to do about it?
My name is Alexander Ivlev. I help people stop drinking for good easily and quickly.